10.18.2011

controlling the word vomit

Minimize my words? Now, how am I supposed to do that? I'm a writer for goodness sake! The reason why I write is because I have so much to say and so little time to say it. Isn't that why we all write? We have A LOT to say. 

The really good talkers are the ones that even talk in their sleep. They can't even sleep without talking! And those are the ones you need to pay attention to. My grandmother still says, in her 51-years of marriage, that she stays up and listens to my grandfather, waiting for another woman's name. Still hasn't happened.
My husband talks in his sleep. It normally has to do with work or me. Obviously, the two stresses in his life: job and wife. Joy. Sometimes he is talking so clearly that I will respond, only to then have silence and figure out he is sleeping. 

But talking can be venomous. Words, destructive. As women, don't we always hang on to the negative things we've heard when the good things seem to go in one ear and out the other? 

And gossip. It is true that those who gossip to you, are probably gossiping about you. Ever think of that?  

Well, I like to talk and I like to write. I am someone that when inserted into a quiet and awkward situation, I will be the talker. I'm usually hoping that someone else will put on the hat of the conversation holder because almost every time, I spat out something I wish I hadn't said. 
Word vomit. 

Talking too much will always cause me some sort of regret asking myself, "Why did I say that!?" 

Minimize my words. I keep hearing it. And look, I have a lot to say about it. 

"Likewise the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole person, sets the whole course of his life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.  (James 3: 5-6)

That is probably why we like texting so much. It is to-the-point and we have time to plan out our response. 

"Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry." (James 1:19)

If I was slow to anger, then I would be slow to speak. But because I sometimes anger quickly, I say a whole mess of word vomit that I don't mean. And we know that we can't take back things we've said. 

We've all met those who are not afraid to say anything and funny, they usually always say that about themselves. "I don't care who hears me!" 

Well, wouldn't you care if you thought about your little child that is watching you and wanting to be just like you? If she is watching you sit on the phone and gossip about someone that she knows, she now thinks that is cool, part of life, something she needs to do. 

Everything we do matters and everything we say matters. We can't cuss and then tell our children not to do it. That isn't fair.

Throughout high school and college, I was determined to be a writer. My fault was always writing too much. "Minimize your words." They would say. Slashes would dissect all the non-needed words throughout my sentences. 

After I would read it, it was so much clearer. "Only 600-words!" the professor would require and of course, my first draft would be nearly 1,000-words. Then going back through, I would carefully take out unnecessary words. 

It is said that we speak nearly 16,000 words per day. What if we only spoke 5,000? That is cutting out more than half of our daily words. Words that are mostly, "Um" or slag or cuss words that don't even add anything worthwhile to what you are trying to get across.

Minimize my words.

"Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue." (Proverbs 17:28)

2 comments:

Rosann said...

Oooh...how I can relate. I'm a talker too and often times what I'm saying aloud doesn't make much sense because I bounce all over the place...usually following my brain! When I write, it's a huge challenge to minimize my words. I have to keep telling myself. People just want to read the point of your post...not all the other nonsense that I think are important details. But I write for myself too, so I often allow those details in my writing because it's therapeutic. By the way, it's so funny you started off with people who talk in their sleep. Both of my daughters talk in their sleep (and coincidentally all day long, every day too!) Anyway, last night my 2 year old was crying out in her sleep "I want a cereal bar...I want a cereal barrrrr!" So for breakfast this morning I gave her a cereal bar with some fruit. She looked at it and said..."what's this?" How do you cry out for something if you don't even know what it is?! Lol!

Blessings,
Rosann

KI said...

amen. :)

 
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