fashion friday

I love me a naked baby slathered in suntan lotion and a diaper (sometimes) in the sweaty summer heat. 
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Janie & Jack 50's swimmers cap

Moroccan shoes with bells from Sunriver, Ore. Audrey loves the sound of the bells when she walks.


momma time

Stay-at-home and work-outside-the-home moms unite: We all feel overwhelmed 

For those who’ve ever looked at a seemingly together mom and wondered how she does it, it’s simple — she doesn’t take a break.

You think she has it better, or easier than you, but really, despite living different lives, stay-at-home moms and moms who work outside the home are pretty much in sync when it comes to their complaints about stress and co-parenting habits, according to a recent survey of 1,200 mothers by TheBump.com and Forbes Woman.

Whether the day involves negotiating with a temperamental toddler or a condescending co-worker, working and stay-at-home moms agree — they barely get a breather.

From rushing to the train, slammed by deadlines to racing through the house, slathered in spit-up, moms can’t check out at 5 p.m. Stay-at-home and work-outside-the-home moms alike are still on the clock when hubby removes his tie and drops his briefcase at the door. According to the survey, 92% of working moms and 89% of stay-at-home moms feel overwhelmed by work, home and parenting duties. A full 84% of stay-at-home moms don’t get a break when their partner returns from work, and 50% say they never get a break from parenting. (But 96% say their partner manages to snag time-outs.)

Both groups (70% of working moms and 68% of stay-at-home moms) feel resentment due to the unbalanced responsibilities and a third of all moms say they feel their partner could step it up on the domestic front.

What to do? Achieving perfect balance juggling it all isn’t likely. But a girl can try.

Talk to your partner about your need for a rest and then start scheduling breaks. Book that mani/pedi and go for that girls’ night you’ve been pushing off. Let your honey tuck the kids in bed. It’s also important to tell other women about what you’re going through.

Just because you can do it all, doesn’t mean you should. -By Julie Weingarden Dubin for NBC

{ABC's momma breaks: I agree with feeling overwhelmed and the only times I really nag my husband to spend time with Audrey is when I'm needing a break. So, there are a few things I do: 

1. A lot of play dates and baby classes. This way, at least once a week I am getting out, playing with Audrey letting Audrey play with others and I'm getting to have mom talk. Look for mommy classes or a mom Bible study so baby can go in the nursery and play with others and you get time to talk to other women.

2. Date nights and girls night outs are very important. My husband saw my need for "me" time and we scheduled every other Tuesday that is MY day. He will come home and do all the house chores such as dinner, dishes and take care of Audrey while I can read, go out or just sit on the couch. It is important for me to be a wife and a woman again and not just a momma. I'll take those baby food sticky clothes off and get dressed up on date nights! 

3.  Running. Audrey is tucked away in her stroller and I plug my iPod in and go. It allows such a break for me while baby is just right there.
4. Find babysitters. It is important you find babysitters that you are comfortable with. It is good for you and for baby to get used to other people. Invite people over and spend time with them- and baby- so you can get comfortable. I'm lucky to have a slew of friends that take Audrey (the kind of friends that when she screams for the whole two hours you're gone, they still like you.) 


reshaping it all: don't fall!

Summer is here which means the BBQ, chips and beer are here too. For a few weeks now my schedule has been crazy with Audrey's birthday, camping trips and other vacations. Easy fast meals have been what's on my plate and it has been a struggle to make time to workout between laundry, unpacking and packing up again. 

I haven't completely fallen off the bandwagon, but my high spirits of feeling in control definitely slipped. At my house, I have no problem with eating healthy, well proportioned meals and doing hard workouts. However, when on vacation, the portions are bigger, the bacon just smells so good, the beer is so cold, and I really have to force myself to get out and run. Bacon and beer isn't a bad thing, but maybe I shouldn't be following the motto, "Work hard = play hard." Playing hard just makes me feel sluggish and doesn't treat me well when I get home and go run.

So, what to do considering we have three more months of vacations? I've done some research and here are some tips I'm going to follow: 

1. Stay Hydrated. Drinking my daily amount of water plus some will keep me hydrated and full. I get really distracted, so I need to fill it up in the morning and really focus on drinking all my water. Once the beer or wine comes in, I will continue to drink water in between and before bed. 

2. Keep Exercising. Taking a break from my rigorous weekly workout routine is much needed, but it is fun and beneficial to stay active on vacation by walking, doing a little jog, a bike ride, hiking, swimming, etc... It boosts my energy, keeps my metabolism up and makes me feel better about having a S'more. 

3. Spritz it up. I'm going to start trying wine spritzers. Sparkling water or club soda has zero calories, sugar and carbohydrates. It will cut the wine calories in half, give me some water and add a refreshing summer taste. 

4. Get away from the snacks! Camping, BBQ's and vacations in general always tend to have a constant supply of good food just barking at you. I mostly need to practice discipline here and if it gets too hard, leave the snack table and go for a walk.

5. Plan for the day. What's going to be for dinner or breakfast is sometimes not in your control. When others get out their homemade pies or S'more makings is also not in your control. However, I can be controlled by asking what is going to be for dinner and then making a plan for the day. If it is going to be a high-carbohydrate dinner such as pasta, I'll cut back on my carbs for the day and portions. If I really want a S'more later, I'll watch my sugar intake, planning on that S'more later. 

6. Eating fast. Relating to #5, so many times on the way out for vacation it is said, "We'll just stop and grab something to eat on the road." This is hard to plan for if you are not driving. Lately, I have packed food such as sandwiches and healthy snacks. However, if you aren't in control of the situation and your tummy is growling, offer up some healthier and still fast choices like Subway or even a grocery stores deli where there are many options. Try and make the best choice, and there is no harm in letting your co-pilots know how bad fast food is for you. They won't be craving it as much if you let them know some ugly calorie facts about that Whopper. 

7. Stay away from thinking, "I'm on vacation!" I have to remember this is a lifestyle change I am making and not something that goes away when I'm on vacation. Next vacation, I'm bringing along my motivator books: Reshaping it All and the Bible. I need to stay close to God when temptation is fighting its way in and keep a constant partner on this reshaping journey.

OK, I think I'm verbally talked myself into (and hopefully, you too) a better plan when going on vacation. I haven't gained any weight, but I haven't lost any either. I'm still 10 lbs away from my goal.


true independence

Hello friends! I've been so out of the blogging world for what seems like forever. Summer kicked into full gear pretty fast and I've been home for only a few days in the past two weeks. And, unlike the majority of the world, I am super un-hip with my non-internet phone. 

The 4th of July weekend was a fabulous one. The ABC family headed up to Sunriver where my family owns a home by the river. The hot sun got us out cramming in kayak, lake, swimming and running adventures. The smell of the BBQ lingered throughout the weekend and the beer ran dry. 

But what better thing to remember this year's independence day other than Audrey blossoming in her independence by walking. 

Audrey has been walking along furniture and has taken a few steps on her own, but refused to let go of someone's hand. Yesterday, she let go and just went for it. 

Every mother can agree that this is one of the most heart-melting, proud and sentimental moments you will go through. It made me want to just stop time. Freeze the moment. You want to cry, you want to laugh, but most of all, you want your baby to stop growing up so fast. 

I hope you all had a wonderful weekend! 


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